Monday, March 26, 2012

Four Years of My Heart . . .

Grab some crackers-- time for a cheesy post.

This past weekend marked the fourth year since we became part of Josie's family.

She had not been out of the SWI and today was a huge trip for her.

She was tired from all trip and all the new sites.
Josie the day we met her at the China Government Office.
She is with the SWI director (this is not her Ayi).

She was so sweet, remarkably quiet.
We soon learned that she was recovering from a cold and was taking medicine to alleviate her congestion.

Nothing like having a cold while experiencing a major life transition!
Me holding Josie for the first time.
 Josie snuggled into my arms without hesitation-- which was a surprise as I was expecting that
she would be majorly upset and crying.
Me singing to Josie, terms of endearment that I had learned in Mandarin.

Josie fell asleep in my arms before we left the government office to return to the hotel.

When Josie awoke at the hotel she was quiet.
Wim was able to hold her for a brief time-- before she realized what/who was holding her.

Josie had never seen men before today and she was fairly freaked-out by Wim. 

In the coming days we ventured out for brief sight-seeing trips.

Josie enjoyed a morning visiting a huge flower garden and learning
to sniff flowers.  Her facial expressions were more than priceless. 

In a matter of days, Josie transformed from being quiet, shy, reserved . . . 
into a fun loving, silly toddler with the most infectious belly laugh! 


She went from crying whenever Wim looked at her to
giving him a good dose of

"Na-na-na-naaaa!"
"You are not holding me or touching my new Ayi!"
(Josie called me "Ayi" for awhile) 

Home from China, Josie met Gabrielle (Jie Jie) and Xavier (Ge Ge).

They bonded over pretend thumb sucking. 

Josie was discovering the perks of having this tall thing called a Daddy-- or as she would then sometimes refer to him as,
"Ayi?"

**Disclaimer** Ayi is the term babies in China use for the Nannies who care for them.
It actually means mother's sister. 

Josie began walking, talking, and learning how to give kisses. 

Her silly personality blossomed. 

She played with her big sibs. 


And before we knew it, she traveled with Wim and I to China where
she became a big sib herself! 
On of my most favorite pictures of me and Josie.

 Josie was quick to become a loving big sister to Clara Rose.

She was also quick to become a bossy big sister. 

To this day she continues to be a loving (and bossy) big sister!

Josie is lovely by all meanings of the word-- inside and out.

Wim and I don't deserve to be her parents and we are
forever grateful for having this sweet little girl for our daughter. 

We love you Josie!

Now and Forever,

for Always.

Friday, February 24, 2012

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Monday, February 20, 2012

Clara Rose B-Day Party-- Take II

After sicknesses and a snow-storm did their
best to wreak havoc on Clara Rose's 4th Birthday, she was finally able to
celebrate the grand occasion with a super fun kid's Gym party!


Clara Rose and Josie just moments before all the
guests arrived. 

Everyone was well aware how paitient Clara Rose
has been waiting for her special party--

and everybody was ready for some serious partying!! 
The rope swing had the crowds standing in line

It was a swinging good time! 

There were lots of tunnels and the bounce house. 

Cousin Abbie was swinging upsdie down! 

Liliana driving around. 

The party girl and her guests worked up
a mighty appetite for cake! 

Whooo\hooo!!!

More Dragon cake! 

Clara Rose had one big peice of her favorite
Dragon Tales dragon, Cassie. 

She ate the 'icing' Cassie before the cake. 

Lots of presents! 

Games are always a big hit with this party girl! 


The guests were entranced. 

Clara Rose hardly knew what to think with all the presents. 

Clara Rose and company playing with the
bucket O'Penguins she received for one present. 

More antics back in the kid's gym.

Jie Jie really got a work out
rolling the guests around. 

Cousin Emily. 

Josie-- a swinging sensation. 

Cousin Nate-- lighter than air! 

Oh yea!

We did this party up with a bang!!! 

Back at home, when the fetivities were over--

Clara Rose transformed into a princess (thanks to the lovely gift from Grace J. and her Mommy) and
treated her two big Sis's  to a royal tea party. 


The Birthday princess accompanied by her new pink baby rhino and new puppy dog. 

Friday, February 17, 2012

Falling (L)in Love with the Knicks

We (and by ‘We’ I mean the Royal ‘We’ of “Mommy, Josie, and Clara Rose) are officially New York Knicks Fans. The rest of our family and friends are more the welcome to join us in our new found Lin-Love of Professional Basketball (The invitation includes you- Wim ;-).


“Jeremy Lin: Why Having Asian American Role Models & Heroes is Important”

. . .
Before Linsanity swept our nation (hereby demarcated as  B.L. or Before Lin), we were still being treated as hostile foreigners even to the point of being portrayed as money grubbing Chinese outsiders seeking to gain influence over the American government in a political attack ad by Pete Hoekstra, a Senate candidate, that aired during the Superbowl, the largest viewed television program in history.
. . .
And much like in 1954, the overwhelming opinion of the informed population has been told or suggested by the media that Asian Americans are not truly American. That we are a people set apart. Either invisible or foreign. Submissive exotic women and effeminate martial arts super-nerds.
. . .
And it’s more than just the sport he plays or his race that has given Linsanity so much momentum. If it was, than his fanbase would never have grown outside of the Asian American community.
. . .
he is the ultimate under-dog: the scrappy fighter, the little guy who never backs down from bullies. Jeremy Lin is fairy tale Linderella story:
  • He was never given an athletic scholarship even while lesser players were being courted by bigger schools and handing them out.
  • His Ivy League court competitors would made ching-chong noises and threw outright racist insults at him.
  • He was cut from two national teams without having ever been given a real chance to play (and you can bet all those general managers are regretting their narrow mindedness).
  • He was so undervalued that he only got his chance to start after two other players were injured and another left on bereavement leave.
  • His NBA contract was unsigned and he has no endorsement deals.
  • His future has been so uncertain that he has been sleeping on his brother’s couch!
  • To Floyd Mayweather who recently flamed Jeremy Lin’s popularity on his race (Mayweather also did the same thing to Manny Pacquiao),
When no one believed in him and in fact tried to push him down time and time again, he still believed in himself. Jeremy Lin was his own Asian American role model.
All he needed was that one moment, that one perfect moment of clarity, a clean slice of time, to prove to the world what he was capable of doing.

“Lin great role model for young Asian-Americans”
For many Jeremy Lin fans, he is more than a sensational basketball player. He's an important cultural figure who is helping to break down stereotypes about Asian-Americans.
. . .
There's a lot of kids out there in the Asian community that will be able to look at him playing and see themselves out there. They will start to think that this is something possible out there for them."

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Happy Chinese New Year- Part II

This past Saturday we were off again to another Chinese New Year Party!

Clara Rose and Josie were ready for another performance!

In the staging room with some of their friends. 

Josie's got the look! 

The girls were backstage waiting to go on--
no need for boring mommy to hang around this time!

So, being the stage mom that I am-- me and a couple other mom's stole
some front row seats-- we figured the reserved signs meant they were for us.

These two played very pretty music-- traditional chinese folk songs as well as some
folk american songs with a chinese vibe.


This young woman was a wonderful dancer.
The girls LUUUVVVED her outfit.   

Here they come!

Front row, Second and Third in line! 


Singing the first song-- Happy New Year-- in Chinese of course! 

You can see Josie in the back. 

After a few other songs it was time to take a bow. 

Josie wanted to climb way up the bleachers and watch
a few of the other shows. 



It didn't take long and we ventured back down close to the stage.

The girls had a fun time dancing to music. 


It was a great ending to a wonderful Chinese New Year Celebration!

Racism and Asian Americans 2012

Racism against Asian Americans is alive and well all over and it is something that our family as well as many of our friends need to be particularly mindful about.
I think most of us read and or heard about Danny Chen, a young soldier who died as the result of racial bullying by his fellow soldiers—you know, the guys who were suppose to have his back while fighting the war on terrorism.
NICE!
There are other less overt signs that racism against Asian Americans is brewing hot:
How about that political ad during the Super Bowl? I somehow managed to miss it. Anyone else get to see it in full action playing for how many millions of viewers? If you missed it like I did—a re-cap is below (and note that the 'rice paddies' are actually a cranberry bog).
This is the kind of racist crap our kids are growing-up with. It is real and it is all around us. Gabrielle and Xavier bring home “comments” all the time- not just from their peers—but also from their TEACHERS AND COACHES. But hey, what is wrong with referring to our family like “another United Nations?”
Michigan Senator Pete Hoekstra's campaign commercial slams his opponent, Democratic incumbent Sen. Debbie Stabenow, as "Debbie-Spend-It-Now."

A Michigan GOP Senate hopeful is drawing criticism for running a Super Bowl ad showing a young Asian woman speaking in broken English and thanking his opponent for propping up China's economy.
The 30-second ad, created by the campaign of former Rep. Pete Hoekstra, opens with a gong sound and shows a young Asian woman riding a bike on a path through a field of rice paddies.
"Thank you Michigan Senator Debbie Spend-it-Now," the woman says, referring to Hoekstra's opponent, Democratic incumbent Sen. Debbie Stabenow.
"Debbie spend so much American money, you borrow more and more from us. Your economy get very weak, ours get very good. We take your jobs."
"Thank you Debbie Spend-it-now," the woman says with a smile, before pedaling off.
The ad then cuts to Hoekstra, who refers to himself as Pete "Spend-it-not" Hoekstra and asks viewers to visit his website, debbiespenditnow.com, which is festooned with Chinese characters, flags, paper lanterns, parade dragons and shows Stabenow's face plastered on a hand fan.
One Michigan Republican consultant called the ad "appalling."
"Stabenow has got to go. But shame on Pete Hoekstra for that appalling new advertisement," GOP Nick De Leeuw wrote on Facebook, according to The Associated Press.
"Racism and xenophobia aren't any way to get things done."
GOP consultant Mike Murphy, a former adviser to John McCain, tweeted that the ad was "really really dumb. I mean really."
The Michigan chapter of the Asian & Pacific Islander American Vote group slammed the ad as "disturbing," telling the AP it used "harmful negative stereotypes" that encourage "anti-Asian sentiment."
Hoekstra's campaign said the ad was satirical and meant as a warning shot at the American education system.
"You have a Chinese girl speaking English, I want to hit on the education system, essentially," Hoekstra spokesman Paul Ciaramitaro told Politico.
"The fact that a Chinese girl is speaking English is a testament to how they can compete with us, when an American boy of the same age speaking Mandarin is absolutely insane, or unthinkable right now."
"I think the viewer of an ad is going to recognize satire," he said.
The ad was shot in California, and Hoekstra, who was once the top Republican on the House intelligence committee, spent $75,000 to run it during the Super Bowl.
It's scheduled to run state-wide for the next two weeks.