Sunday, September 27, 2009

Savoring the Taste of Fall . . .Sort of

What does one do on a rainy Sunday the day after picking apples?

Too obvious-- right?

Here are some pictures of Josie Dong Dong helping me make an apple pie.

I think she did more taste testing of everything than anything else. LOL.

"Mommy, I wanna eat'em"


"I eat dis one, Mommy."


"OOooo. I woll it myself!"


"MMMMmmmm! Taste Goooood!"



"I help Mommy!


After our hard labor and Josie's full 2-hour nap (YEAH!!!), it was time to tast the fruit of our labor (pun intended).

"Hmmmm. What dat?"



"I no wike it Mommy!"

So there we have it-- the honest truth from the mouth of babes-- Josie Dong Dong doesn't "wike it" Apple pie. To be truthfull, it isn't my favorite kind of pie either, but what the heck else were we going to do with so many apples?

You may notice that Josie is wearing her jammies. Last night when I put them on her I realized they are size 2T-- way-- WAY too small for her. She still wanted to wear them to bed. I told her they were too small and this would be the last time she could wear them. This morning she said wanted to wear them all day today. It was a rainy day and we had no plans to go anywhere. We had even decided to play hooky from Church (what vixens we are!). So, Josie got to wear her fuzzy reigndeer jammies one last time for a full 24-hours! She's still in them as I type.

No more news about Clara Rose, so we are still waiting. I did manage to get 20 more quilt squares sewn togher and another 20 are pinned and ready for thread. I hope to have those all sewn next weekend. Weekends, during Josie's nap, are really the only time I have to work on it.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

A Taste of Fall

Josie and I had a fun morning today picking yummy apples at a local apple orchard. Josie first response to the apple trees:
"Oooooooooooooo, wook! Apples! I eat'em!"


"Look Mommy! Apples on twee! I get'em!"





"MMmmmmm! I wike'em apples!"



On our way home from apple picking, we stopped at a nearby school yard so Josie could ride her bike for a little while. Ride it she did  . . .

All across the USA from coast to coast . . .


And across all of Africa, Asia and Russia


Before we new it, it was time to go home for lunch!

Happy Fall!

Monday, September 21, 2009

R--rrrrrrrrrrrr is for Let's Ride

Hi Everyone, I am trying some new functions with Blogger without putting much thought into it so who knows how this will turn out. 

Josie is finally able to really reach the peddals on her bike and it has fast become her new love! 

Just look at the big happy smile on her proud little face! It was all I could do to keep up with her as she pedled along yelling back at me to, "Come Get Me! Get Me! Get Me Mommy!"






And then she was off-- through the gate into the wild unknown-- well, actually, she was headed for the basketball court.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Nothing Much

Hi everyone,

Between a good friend suddenly getting a job in her home country of Canada and moving from nearby Massachusetts to Vancouver (somebody give me a tissue) in a matter of a few weeks notice and trying to organize Josie outgrown clothes that are still in good condition to store for Clara Rose-- I have not had a lot of time to work on the quilt. I do have 20-squares sewn together-- this is two rows and I have 40-squares trimmed and ready to be sewn, so a little progress has been made.

There has not been a whole lot of excitement in our home these days, pretty much the same old thing that we have fun with, but doesn't make for interesting blogging. I thought I would post a quick few pictures from our walk to a nearby playground.

Josie is always up for a run around a park. She loves to play at the "Ground," which is what she calls the playground.

Wim found a caterpillar. He showed it to Josie who was less than enthused, but managed to simply say, "Noooooo" without screaming and crying like she often does if shown something that is less than fuzzy and cute.

Josie also enjoys walking our dog, Phoebe on the leash. Phoebe is generally pretty good about not pulling when Josie has the leash, but today it was more like Phoebe was walking Josie. You can be sure that Josie yells at Phoebe when she doesn't behave nicely like a good doggie should.









Gathering some sticks to feed to Phoebe.

Josie playing some baby B-Ball with her Daddy. She may be short, but she gives it her all!



















Almost nap-time and time for us to head home for lunch before she crashes!

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Dare I Really Post This

Our adoption agency has informed us that they are able to *see* that the CCAA (Chinese agency that processes adoptions) is working on our paperwork. We're not really sure what is meant by *see*, but our agency has told us they expect us to get our official referral in one to two months and they think we will be traveling to China in early December!!!

While we are very excited about this news, we are also cautious about it as well. We learned while adopting Josie that these time frames can change--mostly grow longer.

So we have decided to be cautiously optimistic and with the chance that our official referral for Clara Rose is on the way I am re-listing some of my former informational posts about adoption. We will be doing the same types of things as when we first came home with Josie-- meaning, we will not be doing much. We will keep things quiet the first few months after we bring Clara Rose home so she can adjust to her new surroundings and family.

I am have also posted some new information about our decision to adopt a waiting child and also information about the medical condition Clara Rose has, Microtia Atresia. Please read these posts and feel free to ask us if you have any questions. We hope to answer most of people's questions before we bring Clara Rose home. These posts are directly below this post.

Now that this information is out to you-- here are a few updates and picts of our typical family excitement-- that wasn't too typical after all!

Wim, his mom and the kids all went to Disney. They didn't take a lot of pictures, but more than I am able to post. I will leave it up to Wim to post more pictures if they want to.

The kids and Judy arriving at their hotel room. They don't look too excited do they?

Wim and the kids.

Hmmm, I wonder what Gabrielle and Xavier did to get in this trouble?

A party parade that the kids enjoyed a lot!


This past weekend I took Josie to New Hampshire for a day at Story Land, a theme park for little kids.


It is already cooling off in New Hampshire and Josie was very excited to get to wear her favorite sweatshirt again-- Elmo!
She had fun playing in the shoes from: One, Two, Buckle my shoe . . .

Lots of laughs during the carousel ride. These horses rock back and forth and there are only two like it in the world-- this one and one in Munich, Germany!


















Josie and I rode on a big Swan Boat-- which Josie referred to as the Duck boat. She really wanted to go on it, but then wasn't so sure about all the other people on the boat with us.




Josie had really big fun playing at the mad lab-- it was filled with lots of squishy balls, suction hoses, and ball guns.

Here is Josie trying to figure out where the balls go in the hose.









Josie caught on quick and did her best to keep up with the bigger kids in the lab.
How many balls do you think she can hold at once?






"Oh SNAP!" Josie Dong Dong is taking aim-- forget the names!








I think the biggest thrill of the day for little Dong Dong was getting to drive Mommy in her very own car!
This is one satisfied little Josie Dong Dong! She was very proud to drive Mommy around in the Old fashioned car.













After driving the car, we went for a ride on the Choo-choo train. Josie Dong Dong wasn't too sure about the little girl and her Mommy who jumped on in the seat behind us.


She addressed the situation in true Josie Dong Dong fashion---


It was a great day and we look forward to twice as much fun at Story Land next year when we take Josie and Clara Rose.
I am not sure how regularly I will be posting to the blog in the coming weeks. I will definitely post if we have big news to share, but the regular family updates may be a little sporadic. I am starting to work on the 100-wish quilt for Clara Rose and I need to finish Josie's adoption story book-- so my free time-- well, I'm not going to have much free time.

Adopting a Waiting Child

Our family is very excited to be in the process of bringing home our next child, another daughter, our Clara Rose, who will become the baby of our family. It would be misleading not to mention, that like most people who are adding a new child, whether by birth, adoption, or step kids through marriage, we are a little nervous. Our family dynamic will once again change and everyone will need to make adjustments.

Gabrielle and Xavier both made a huge adjustment when we brought Josie home. Gabrielle, while still the oldest, was no longer her Daddy's only daughter. Xavier was usurped as the baby in their Daddy’s home. I became a mom to a little girl who is quite insistent on my attention and another child was added to the mix for Wim to keep tabs on—especially on week day mornings when the goings are already pretty hectic. Everyone made adjustments and we have grown into our new roles and transformed into a slightly different family that is filled with more love, more activity, and sometimes more irritability, with little Josie Dong Dong.

This time around, not only will there be the adjustment of adding a new family member and everyone’s role in the family changing, we will be adding another layer in that our new daughter, Clara Rose, has Microtia Atresia. Neither Wim nor I want Clara Rose to be defined by her medical condition. However, some folks may or may not be questioning our decision to adopt again and even more so to adopt a child with a known medical condition—and a medical condition that probably many of our family and friends are not familiar with.

We’ve decided to address these issues in the blog and hopefully it will cover questions/concerns that anyone may have but does not feel comfortable asking. So, this post and a few others to describe Microtia Atresia will be somewhat lengthy and not the typical light hearted blog posts I typically provide. After making these posts, I will return to posting the family activity posts as I typically post and will no longer focus on the issues of Special Needs Adoption, and Microtia Atresia. While these issues are a component of our lives- there are not and will not become a focal point.

Wim and I decided to adopt again for a few reasons. 1) We like being parents; 2) The key to staying young is to have young kids around—at least this is what we have been told; 3) We want Josie to have a sibling close to her age.

Wim and I preferred to adopt from China again because even though the length of the wait grew to such an extreme the first time around, China still has one of the best, if not the best, internationally run adoption programs. We also want Josie and her new sibling to have a similar birth culture and background.

As most of you know, the wait to adopt from China grew to a much longer wait when we adopted Josie. This wait has continued to grow even longer. Since we brought Josie home, China has only processed 3 months of approved adoption paperwork. The wait to adopt a *healthy* baby, as young as possible, is approaching 4 years from the time China receives the application. Granted, this is not a reason to adopt a child with medical needs, but many of the medical needs in China adoptions are not what we would consider to be serious. Many are easily correctable with surgery or some other type of treatment that is readily available in the US.

Wim and I actually briefly discussed adopting from China through the Special Needs program while we were in China adopting Josie.

After we were home with Josie for a year we began talking about another adoption and we felt our choices, given what we want our life to look like, were fairly clear if we were going to proceed with another adoption: 1) Wait until Josie is a little older ~6 years and adopt a child from China that is a year or two younger than her but who would be considered a Waiting Child (not as long of a wait); 2) Start the process now for a child not older than 3 but who has a medical condition that we feel our family can address without much hardship; 3) Don’t adopt again.

After much discussion, research into other adoption programs from Taiwan and Korea, research into several special needs/medical conditions—Wim and I decided that we would adopt again from China through their special needs program. Our plan at that time was complete our paperwork that would list a few medical conditions and age range desired that we would be open to, submit it to our chosen adoption agency, then wait to be matched with a child in that manner.

As it turned out, I happened to be browsing through a couple of websites that advocate for the adoption children with special needs and saw the file for the little girl we are going to adopt. I think I have mentioned to most folks, that she has Microtia Atresia, or malformed ears. There will be another blog post specifically about this medical condition. In this post, suffice it to say, that this is actually the medical condition that Wim and I had felt would be the easiest to address. Once we researched it, we both said, “That’s no big deal.”

Imagine our thoughts to see the posting for this little girl who is 14 months younger than Josie—then discovering from the Agency listing her that she was still available for adoption. We couldn’t believe we found the perfect fit for our family!

Clara Rose is exactly what we had hoped for!

So now we begin preparing for our family dynamics to change again. Gabrielle will remain the oldest—now the oldest of four Kids, which she recently informed us that she thinks it will be really cool.

Xavier will remain the only boy—now surrounded by three sisters.

Josie Dong Dong will be usurped of her role as the baby—we’re not sure how well that is going to go-over. She is already referring to Clara Rose as, “No Rose!”

I will be the mother of two daughters—I am really hoping Clara Rose is more of a Daddy’s girl than Josie Dong Dong!

Wim will be Daddy to four kids, three of which are girls. He has recently noted that our cat and dog are also girls and he has a sneaking suspicion that if we had the gender checked on Xavier’s leopard gecko, we would find that it is a girl as well.

Information about Microtia Atresia

As was mentioned in the previous post, We do not want Clara Rose to define herself by her ears—they are a part of who she is but not all that she is—and this is true for all of us.

There is much debate in the Special Needs adoption community about whether or not to share information about an adopted child having a special need, especially if it isn’t visible. Some parents view it as a matter of protecting their child’s privacy. We, Wim and I, understand and respect this reasoning but we have different beliefs. We believe that taking this approach will also run the risk of a child feeling shame for their medical condition—that it is a secret to be kept and not shared because something is wrong.

Nothing is wrong with Clara Rose. Her ears are different from most of our ears, but when you think about it don’t we all have different ears, different noses, etc.

Wim and I recognize that there is likely some curiousity among family and friends about Microtia Atresai. It certainly sounds different—neither of us had ever heard of it until we started researching medical conditions. During this research we learned from other parents that this is very easy to handle and is likely why folks don’t hear too much about it. It is too much of a non-issue that it isn’t really talked about. We are and will most likely continue to be happy to answer questions from folks, but don’t expect us to dwell upon it. As all parents know, there is much more about kids to focus on—like all the fun things they do to keep us hip and cool, and most definitely—on our toes!

This post contains information about Microtia Atresia for those who want to know more, causes, what is it, treatment, and a few pictures from the web. In terms of treatment, we aren’t sure at this point what we will do. At this point, I think I prefer the rib graft procedure described below, but Clara Rose will most likely be involved in making this decision when she a little bit older (8-10 years old). Some people may feel that is too big of a decision for a young child to make, but they are her ears after all so she should have some say in the whole process.

Clara Rose has bilateral Microtia Atresia, meaning the condition affects both of her ears. One ear more so than the other ear. Her Right ear is Stage 3. We are not sure if her left ear is Stage 1 or Stage 2, but she does have an outer ear canal for that ear. We do not know if it is narrow or not. We do not have readable results from a hearing test, but there were some comments in her growth report indicating that she has some hearing.

Obviously there are some unknowns—as with the addition of any child to a family, whether by birth, adoption, or step kids through marriage.

What causes Microtia Atresia?

The occurrence of microtia is usually a random, sporadic event, and it is not caused by anything the mother did before or during the pregnancy.

Researchers theorize that Microtia is not hereditary but is caused by tissue ischemia (decreased blood flow) resulting from an obliterated artery during fetus development One doctor notes that s/he has treated 10-12 patients with microtia who have a proven, identical twin with non-malformed ears.

What is Aural Atresia / Canal Stenosis?

Aural atresia refers to the absence an external ear canal. When someone has aural atresia, there is a high incidence of malformation of the external ear (Microtia) and middle ear also, but the inner ear and auditory nerve are frequently normal. A narrowed ear canal (i.e. one where the eardrum can be viewed, but the canal is narrower than normal) is sometimes referred to as a stenotic canal, or canal stenosis. Aural atresia most commonly effects just one ear (unilateral), but can occur both ears (bilateral).Atresia can be a symptom of a larger syndrome, such as Treacher Collins, Crouzon's, Alpert's, Preiffer, Klippel-Feil, BOR (Branchio-Oto-Renal), 18-q chromosome, as well as Hemifacial Microsomia.What is Aural Atresia? - http://www.microtia.com/whatis.html The Microtia And Aural Atresia Division of the IRPS - http://www.irps.net/microtiainfo.html EMedicine – Aural Atresia - http://author.emedicine.com/ped/topic167.htm

What is Microtia?

Microtia literall translates from the Latin to mean “small ear” Microtia varies from the complete absence of the ear (which is referred to as anotia) to a somewhat normal but small ear. Visit http://www.earsurgery.com/pages/variations.html to see good pictures of the various grades of microtia (Figure 5).Microtia Statistics:• Nearly twice as frequent in males as in females• Averages occurrence is 1 in 6,000 when averaged across all ethnic groups• Approximately 60 % unilateral right, 30 % unilateral left, 10 % bilateral
Microtia (meaning 'Small ear') is a congenital deformity of the pinna (outer ear). It can be unilateral (one side only) or bilateral (affecting both sides). It occurs in 1 out of about 8,000-10,000 births. In unilateral microtia, the right ear is most typically affected.

There are four grades of microtia [2]:

Grade I: A slightly small ear with identifiable structures and a small but present external ear canal

Grade II: A partial or hemi-ear with a closed off or stenotic external ear canal producing a conductive hearing loss

Grade III: Absence of the external ear with a small peanut vestige structure and an absence of the external ear canal and ear drum

Grade IV: Absence of the total ear or anotia.
Treatment

Grade III is most common, and can be corrected by surgery. Typically, testing is first done to determine if the inner ear is intact and hearing is normal. If hearing is normal, the next step (if a canal is not visible externally) will be to determine if a canal exists, by CT scan. For younger patients, this is done under sedation. Age when outer ear surgery can be attempted depends on the technique chosen (see below). The earliest age surgery can be attempted is age 3 for Medpor and 6 for Rib Cartilage Grafts. However the vast majority of surgeons, including the world experts in ear reconstruction recommend waiting until a later age, such as 8-10 when the ear is full adult size.

Options

There are two separate issues in microtia surgery:

Auricular reconstruction to restore the visual appearance and form of the outer ear
Repair of atresia or application of a bone-anchored hearing aid BAHA to restore hearing.
Unilateral deafness is not generally considered a serious disability, especially when the person is able to adjust to it from birth. In general, there is little to gain from an intervention to enable hearing in the microtic ear, except in bilateral microtia. However, children with untreated unilateral hearing loss are eight to ten times more likely to have to repeat a grade in school.[citation needed] If surgery or aids are not used, special steps should be taken to ensure that the child is accessing and understanding all of the verbal information presented in school settings. Age for BAHA implantation depends on whether you are in Europe (18 months) or the US (age 5).[citation needed] If the child is under the age for surgical implantation, the BAHA can be worn on a headband

For auricular reconstruction, there are four different options:

1. Rib Cartilage Graft Reconstruction: This surgery should be performed only by specialists in the technique.[citation needed] It involves sculpting the patient's own rib cartilage into the form of an ear. Although the cartilage is the patient's own living tissue, the reconstructed ear does not continue to grow as the child does. The procedure is therefore usually performed after 8 years of age, one reason being to ensure that the rib cage is large enough to provide the donor material necessary, but also so that the opposite (normal) ear has reached almost full adult size. This is a two-stage surgery. The major advantage of this surgery is that the patient's own tissue is used for the reconstruction.

2. Reconstruct the ear using a polyethylene plastic implant: This is a two-stage surgery that can start around age 3. This surgery should only be performed by experts in the techniques involved as complications are difficult to correct.[citation needed]

3. Ear Prosthesis: This surgery is ideally suited to those who are awaiting rib cartilage reconstruction (adhesive prosthesis) or in whom other techniques have failed (bone anchored prosthesis or adhesive prosthesis). A craniofacial prosthesis or auricular (ear) prosthesis is custom made by an anaplastologist to mirror the other ear. Prosthetic ears can appear very realistic. They require a few minutes of daily care. They are typically made of silicone, which is colored to match the patient's skin and can be attached using either adhesive or with titanium screws inserted into the skull to which the prosthetic is attached with a magnetic or bar/clip type system. These screws are the same as the BAHA (bone anchored hearing aid) screws and can be placed simultaneously. The optimal age to begin wearing an ear prosthesis is between the age of 6 and 9. The child should be mature enough to want the prosthesis and to help care for it.[1] A person with grade I & II microtia need not consider an ear prosthesis. A person with grade IV (anotia) is best suited for an ear prosthesis. A person with grade III construction has three options for reconstruction.

1. Leave the skin tags for future surgical reconstructive purposes and make an adhesive retained prosthesis over the top of the existing ear. The advantage is that you can keep your reconstructive options open and you get more definition in the ear than a surgical approach. This allows you to try out the prosthetic approach without burning any bridges. It is also the least expensive approach. The disadvantage is that the ear is typically placed lower and more forward and tends to appear more bulky than the other ear. It will give you a good outline though.

Placement is more difficult than prosthetics option '2'. If you like the look of the prosthesis and want to make it more permanent, you can proceed with option '3'.

2. Remove the skin tags and use an adhesive retained ear. The advantage over prosthetic option '1' is that your prosthetic ear can be a near identical mirror image of your other ear. Placement is much easier as well because the skin is flat. The disadvantage is that options for surgical reconstruction are reduced by removing the skin tags.

3. Remove the skin tags and simultaneously place the implants for a prosthesis. The visual results are very similar to prosthetic option '2'. The advantage is that placement of the ear becomes even easier and you eliminate the costs of adhesive and the associated daily care. The disadvantage is again that you limit your surgical reconstructive options significantly in placing the titanium screws.

4. Soft tissue reconstruction: The reasoning for soft tissue reconstruction is that surgically reconstructed ears using rib-graft or implants are sensitive, though the sensation is not the same as for normal ears due to the transplant of skin from other areas of the body.

Classifications of Microtia:
Microtia is divided into separate classifications (the classic microtia is considered Grade III).

Anotia
Anotia technically means no ear. This ear deformity, the most severe form of microtia may at times be called anotia.

Grade 1 Microtia
The ear is smaller than normal although most of the features of a normal ear such as a well-defined lobule, helix and anti-helix are present. This can occur with or without an external auditory canal.

Grade 2 Microtia
The normal features of the ear are missing. There is still a lobule and a remnant of helix and antihelix.

Grade 3 Microtia
"The Classic Microtia": The ear consists of a vertical skin appendage with a malformed lobule (earlobe) on the lower end. There is usually firm tissue at the upper end which is made up of a disorganized cartilaginous vestige. The lower end is usually a piece of lobular tissue which will be the future earlobe when reconstructed. Usually there is no external auditory canal (atresia).